Our plan is to grill hamburgers Saturday night. We used my birthday and lack of celebration on my birthday as the excuse for getting together. We figure that we will eat, have dessert, and while everyone is sitting around visiting, we will make the announcement.
But we aren't just going to blurt it out. Jon's mom collects the Willow Tree angels and figurines, and my mom and expressed an interest in starting a collection. I bought the Grandmother and Grandfather Willow Tree figurines and we are going to give those to them and let them figure it out from that.
I figure we will disguise it by saying, "We really appreciate all the help you have given us over the past year and a half, and we wanted to get you a little something to show our appreciation. The basement wouldn't be finished and look as good as it does without your help."
I guess I will wrap them, I just hope it doesn't seem too obvious.
There is one dilemma I am dealing with. We want to invite and include his brother and SIL. I think they would be hurt if they weren't included. However, I am trying to be sensitive to them too. They have been trying to get pregnant for the better part of 6 years. They have tried some fertility drugs, looked into adopting, but nothing has really panned out for them. I know they will be happy for us, but I feel that if they are there that they may feel put on the spot and uncomfortable. The last thing I want if for them to be upset with us. I just don't know what to do, and I feel like it is a no-win situation. What really stinks is that I can't really talk it out with my mom and get her advice, because to talk about it would be to tell her.
Should we go ahead and invite them and before they come down call and tell them first to give them a heads up and they can decide if they want to come down or not? Should we just not invite them (which I think may be rude)? Or should we just let them find out with our parents?
Help!
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That's a tough one. I think you should just make it a "parents only" announcement (unless they already know about the get-together) and either call them after you announce it, or tell them in person the next day. I say this from experience because before I found out I was pregnant, I was happy for the people that had announced their pregnancies,but it was extremely hard trying to put on a happy face when everyone was so excited and I was just reminded that I couldn't get pregnant. But that's just me!
Thats good advice. I asked around and this seems to be the general concensus. That or calling them earlier in the day and telling them, then letting them decide if they want to come or back out.
It all may be moot anyway, if the snow coming in tomorrow has anything to do with it. I heard Perry was supossed to get 4 inches!
That's what they're saying! But we'll see what happens! What's plan B if the snow keeps your parents from visiting?
Haven't thought that far ahead yet. I do know that I really don't want to tell them over the phone, so it may be the end of February before we tell them.
Jonathan won't like that. He is anxious to tell the world.
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